= Brits can't say "no" directly
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= British people are very indirect
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If you ask for something, and they don't want to do it for whatever reason, they won't say no. They will say "I could do it, sure, no problem" and just never do it, nor explain why they don't want to do it!
And then if you don't understand that this actually meant "no" and push things further, they might eventually say "no", but they might become offended that you didn't understand them at first!
Please just say at least "yes" or "no". And if you're feelig specially nice, say "why no" which helps a lot the asker sometimes, though that's optional since people are entitled to their privacy. Just don't waste our poor foreigners' time with "bhlarmeh"!
Perhaps <East Asia> is a similar and more severe case of the same problem. But at least in their case it is so obvious that you already expect it.
The polar opposite apparently beign <Germen> and the like.
Why we can't find more bibliography on this?
* https://www.reddit.com/r/AskUK/comments/ywt98p/why_are_british_people_so_indirect/[] "Why are British people so indirect?". Now deleted body with some fixes, bullshit deletion procedure they have:
> I've worked with people from all over the globe, but its when i work Work with British people it's always frustrating.
From conversations to communicating what they would like me to do for them in notes. Never direct. Confusing and unclear. When I ask politely what they are asking me to do I get some patronising passive aggressive BS.
Most times I don't even have to ask questions or clear things up. I try to make sense of everything, but sometimes I have to ask. In my job its important that I have the exact facts. I need 100% clarity from colleagues, so decisions I make don't come back to bite me on the ass. My clients don't have time for British behaviour like that. I don't have time for that.
Why are Brits do indirect and passive aggressive in the workplace?
The best comment:
> > Brits do tend to be a bit passive aggressive, but we're also generally quite logical and reasonable creatures. Be direct and just say 'look, cut the bullshit, tell me your honest opinion, I won't take offense' and they should open up more.
Nice try Johnson, I'm not falling for that trap.
* https://www.facebook.com/soverybritish/posts/things-that-mean-no-yeah-could-do-im-easy-really-well-yes-and-no-well-see-maybe-/1497343080313575/
Things that mean "no" by "Very British Problems":
> * Yeah, could do
* I'm easy really
* Well, yes and no
* We'll see
* Maybe
* If that's what you fancy
* I'll see how I feel
* https://letstalk.voiceprint.global/talking-with-the-brits-the-problem-with-indirectness/ "Talking with the Brits - the problem with indirectness"
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The former <#East German> spy undercover in the <USA> says:
> I had learned to speak English and write it as well as anybody, but I hadn't become an <American> culturally.
My behavior was still very <German>.
Having now learned the difference between the German style and the American style, I have been trying to adjust and soften the way I'm approaching things.
Germans are in your face, they will tell you what they think even if you don't ask for it, and they will criticize you at any chance they get.
And that was me.
And there's still a residue of that left.
Americans will be a little more passive, sometimes passive aggressive, and they wrap everything, every piece of bad news, in some kind of a velvet cloth so it doesn't hurt that much.
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