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Let $D_n\in \{1,2,3\}$ be the shorter circular separation after $n$ swaps, so $D_0=1$. There are $\left(\genfrac{}{}{0ex}{}{6}{2}\right)=15$ equally likely unordered swaps. Six swap only guests, one swaps the distinguished pair, and eight swap one distinguished diner with a guest. Rotations, reflections and exchangeability of the guests ensure that the next-separation probabilities depend only on $D_n$. Thus this is the separation chain for two labels in a circular transposition shuffle, a lumped Markov chain.

Counting all swaps gives the transition matrixwith states ordered $1,2,3$. To verify the counts, fix one distinguished diner at seat $0$ and the other at seat $d$. For $d=1$, swaps moving the diner at $0$ to seats $2,3,4,5$ give separations $1,2,3,2$; swaps moving the diner at $1$ to those seats give $2,3,2,1$. Along with the seven separation-preserving swaps this gives $(9,4,2)$. For $d=2$, moving the first diner to seats $1,3,4,5$ gives $1,1,2,3$, while moving the second gives $1,3,2,1$; the total is $(4,9,2)$. For $d=3$, each distinguished diner has two moves to separation $1$ and two to separation $2$, giving $(4,4,7)$.

If $r_n=\mathrm{Pr}(D_n=3)$, the last column yieldsSubtracting the fixed point $1/5$ and iterating solves the affine recurrence:For one swap this gives $2/15$, agreeing with direct counting. The limit $1/5$ also agrees with the stationary distribution $(2/5,2/5,1/5)$ of the separation Markov chain: given one diner's seat, one of the five remaining seats is opposite. The complete permutation shuffle alternates parity, but that does not prevent this lumped separation probability from converging.