 Razor-thin disk relaxation

In an unsoftened plane with number surface density $n_2$ and relative speed $u$, an encounter strip has area $2udtdb$. Thus the velocity diffusion rate is $8G^2{m}^2{n}_2/u\int db/b^2$, dominated by the small-impact cutoff. Setting this cutoff to $Gm/u^2$ and requiring a change of order $u^2$ gives $t_{\mathrm{rel}}\sim u/(Gm{n}_2)$. With $u=\lambda v$, $n_2\sim N/R^2$ and $v^2\sim GNm/R$, this is of order $\lambda R/v$, independent of $N$ at fixed total mass. The point-particle, zero-thickness limit is singular; fixed softening or nonzero thickness changes it. Numerical coefficients are not controlled by extending weak kicks down to order-one deflections.